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One of the main ways that we increase our suffering and create stress is through judging. Our brains tend to naturally judge, judge, judge. You know, "She's a witch," "He's an idiot," "This job is ridiculous," and "This place is horrible."  Think of the emotions those...

Mindfulness can help you decrease impulsive behaviors. Practicing focusing your attention can make a difference between yelling at someone you love and waiting until you are calmer. If you delay until you are calmer, you can speak from wise mind and speak in a way...

Think about the people who annoy you. That's right, the people who get under your skin. They may have habits of complaining continuously, or always having a problem, or of disagreeing with all that you say. Maybe they constantly have aches and pains. Maybe they talk...

Did you know that when people are successful in therapy, they don't usually experience fewer negative emotions and more positive emotions? What actually happens is that they become more comfortable having mixed emotions, both happy and otherwise. Sometimes we may...

Being kind to yourself is part of being compassionate. Another way to practice self-compassion is to comfort yourself physically and with compassionate words. Dr. Kristin Neff emphasizes the use of physical gestures and compassionate words. This information is from...

We've all made mistakes, hurt others' feelings, pushed ahead to get what we wanted without thinking of how it affected others and been careless at times. We've all gossiped and said hurtful words to others. When you make a mistake, how do you react to yourself? Do you...

One of the basic ideas in Family Connections, the NEA BPD program for families of those who suffer from emotion dysregulation, is to make the most benign interpretation possible of a situation or someone's intentions. Remember that idea from your class? Benign...

During times of stress, our ability to cope in positive ways is not at its best. We tend to put on our armor and be defensive. One of the ways we do that is by blaming. It must be someone's fault that this is happening, whatever this is. Do you blame others when life...

When we feel threatened, our sympathetic nervous system turns on and we are in flight or fight mode.  It's a normal response which helps us survive. Years and years and years ago, when the threat was a saber-tooth tiger, this response served us well. We could act...

Good morning everyone. So, what are you learning about what you need during this time of stay at home orders and social distancing? For me, I’m appreciating the importance of putting some structure in my day. You know, here in Texas, life was one way on Friday and...